And yes, I’m being serious. What he did in that video does not show any kind of love or respect for women – it shows just the opposite, hate and disrespect. Because, girls, here’s the Truth – a guy that truly loves you would never treat you like an object, a thing made to please him. A guy that truly loves you would not use you for sex all whilst calling it love.
I want to say something here to you girls. You are worth more than being treated like an object. You are worth more than feeding some guys lust just so he’ll pay attention to you. You deserve a guy who sees you as a person, a heart, a soul. You deserve a guy who wants to get to know you for you, not just what you can do for him. You are worth far more than someone who’ll require you to parade around half-naked to feed the lust of not only him, but also all his friends.
Girls, you have an identity that has nothing to do with your sexuality. You have a story to tell, and a personality unique to you. You have worth beyond just your physical appearance. You were made for more than just sex, more than just appealing to some guys’ lust. Don’t settle just because real men are hard to find. Don’t settle just because society tells you to. You. Are. Worth. More.
And Guys – please, please don’t settle into the culture around you. Be the one to rise above the norm and actually respect women. Be the one to treat a girl like a person, like a human completely equal to you. Guys – be men. Being a man does not mean you sleep around and be ‘the best she ever had;’ being a man means refusing to buy into the lie that women were created simply to please you. We need more guys who choose true love and respect instead of this misogynistic lie music videos like this teach us.
It’s time to be different. It’s time to start living like we’re actually worth something – because we are. I don’t know about you, but I wanna be different from the culture around me. I wanna live by the Truth, not lies merely disguising themselves as the truth. It’s time to know our ground and stand on it, refusing to settle or compromise our standards just because that’s what everyone else is doing. Girls, it’s time to rise up as a person, as a beautiful, strong, fierce woman who knows her worth goes far beyond her sexual appeal and ability. Men, it’s time to start seeing the truth about what our culture is doing to women. It’s time to start seeing misogyny as what it is – a disgusting attitude that is being sold by our society as ‘love.’ You’re better than that lie, men. You’re better than treating women as if they were only objects made to satisfy your lust.
p.s. This is not a ‘let’s hate Justin Bieber’ post, and I am not a ‘hater’ by any means. But this is something that had to be said. I realise Bieber is not the only guy in the world making music videos like this, and treating women like this – but he has a very significant influence over a wide range of ages. I’m sure I’m not alone in wishing and praying he would start to use that influence differently.